Parents Need to Go on a Trip, and Not a Guilt Trip

Spending quality time together as a family is quite possibly one of the most important things in life. On the flip side, it is just as important for parents to enjoy each other’s company alone, without the little ones. On a daily basis, it is difficult to accomplish this because so many other things demand attention – children, careers, finances, health, home ownership, friends, etc. Unfortunately, those things trigger stress, which is often times taken out on your spouse.

So what’s the solution to ensure a happy and healthy marriage? – a parents-only vacation! This is not all encompassing of course, but it certainly can’t hurt. Not to mention, there are budget-friendly getaway options available, so the “We can’t afford it excuse” simply isn’t allowed.

If you are one of those parents that would feel an overwhelming amount of guilt for going on a trip without your kids, just think of it this way – you are strengthening your marriage, which in turn benefits your children directly. Plus, there are plenty of other opportunities for a family vacation. We’re talking about a weekend getaway here folks, not an eternity. If you’re still on the fence about even acknowledging the notion of a parents-only vacation, consider the following:

1. Extra Baggage. More often than not, family vacations are focused on the kids, and end up causing more work and stress on the parents. Face it – traveling with kids is exhausting!

2. No Fear. It is completely normal to fear leaving your children, but having a family member or close family friend house sit while you are away should ease that fear at least a little bit. The other option is to have your kids stay with someone else. They might actually love the idea of spending a few nights at their best friend’s house. Not only is this the kind of favor that friends and family willingly do for free, but the moment when you are reunited with your kids is priceless.

3. Rekindle the Flame. Any couples counseling book or professional will be the first to advise parents to improve their relationship and strengthen their marriage by spending quality time together, without the children. What better way to do that than with a romantic weekend getaway?

4. Finance Schminance. Vacations can quickly break the bank, but when it’s just you and your spouse traveling, there are actually a number of wallet-friendly options available. An RV rental and a visit to your local sporting goods store can provide you with the perfect practical getaway.

Once you decide that an adults-only vacation is just what the doctor ordered, then you just need to figure out where you’re going to go, and where your kids are going to go. Make this a family-friendly conversation so that your children are aware of the plan. Allow them to have as much input as possible in regards to the arrangements that will be made while you are away. The ultimate goal is for everyone to enjoy themselves, but from different locations.